Changes

Today my brother and nephew came over to help me move furniture. Basically, we turned our one bedroom one bathroom apartment into a two bedroom (no living room) two “bathroom” apartment. I’m so thankful for their help and I’m so thankful we live in this independent living community. My husband was able to spend the day in the great room visiting with neighbors and in the theater watching movies. I brought him a bag lunch and once the renovations were underway to the point that he couldn’t get into our apartment to use the bathroom I met him at the public bathroom with his walker-which he isn’t supposed to be using but we had no other option until now. Until now. Now his bed and commode are side by side in the living room. He finds that very depressing. It’s kind of a symbol I guess, of how serious his condition has become. His world, in our apartment at least, consists of the fifteen feet from our front door to his chair in front of the TV. His bed, commode, the kitchen- that’s it. He can’t wash dishes in the sink anymore, but I encourage him to load the dishwasher. Putting his clothes away is difficult. I’ve moved the drawers from under the bed and piled them to make it easier, and am putting his clean clothes right on his bed for him to fold. I know some will wonder why I don’t just do it for him. I am waiting on him much more now than I did two weeks ago, but the fact is, every little loss of independent action moves him closer to the nursing home and I’m trying to avoid that. Four years ago I talked him into selling our remote country home and moving into an RV because maintenance had become too much for us. Two years ago I convinced him to come off the road and move into independent living because, again, our lifestyle became too much for us. Now, again, we’ve reached a milestone. He can’t walk. Some days he can’t think clearly. He’s in a lot of pain. So I’ve made changes to simplify life. This time I couldn’t sugar coat it with the promise of adventures on the road or the availability of an indoor pool. This time it’s different.

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